What I want in relationship
In September of 2007, I sat down one night to consider what I want in a relationship – not in terms of who my ideal partner would be, but in terms of the feelings in my heart. This provides a much less objective set of measures, but a much clearer internal picture of what I’m looking for. It’s also written up approximately as I brainstormed it – very little punctuation, minimal grammar.
I want
- to feel naturally open with my heart; warm, light, and excited
- play
- touch
- balanced flow of energy
- both:
- a relationship that augments what we’ve got goin on in our lives (rather than being all that’s going on)
- a relationship so rewarding that I am naturally inclined to prioritize it above whatever else is in my life (& similarly rewarding for my s.o.)
- to feel free to be myself; safe speaking plainly and openly
- to like looking at each other, touching each other
- to have a clear and easy feeling about the future (it’s like testing a cake – when we put our feelings into the future, they come out clean)
- both:
- to embrace and accept each other as we are
- to train ourselves and each other to be who we want