Home of the Wanderer

I have a high capacity for emotional connection and exploration, and I’m fairly well differentiated. I have very close relationships with my two brothers.

I am warm, and open-hearted, though I know that some things just aren’t anybody’s business but my own (and similarly that some things are none of my business). I pick up context quickly, and thus adjust well to new social situations.

People who have known me a long time describe me as kind, generous, and honest. I’m still working on these things, myself – learning ever higher standards for my own honesty, coming to understand that kindness is not the opposite of strength, and that generosity is consistent with caring for my own needs.

I tend to be energetic and positive, and I have a resilient heart. I’ve been through difficult breakups and even harder relationships, and have always returned to loving life, the world, and my fellow humans.

I’ve been reading and exploring popular psychology since the early 1990s. Among the many authors whose work I’ve studied and practiced, some of the ones whose ideas I’m still pursuing are Gay and Katie Hendricks (microscopic truth, commitment, and responsibility), Marshall Rosenberg (nonviolent communication), Fred Donaldson (original play), Donna and Alan Brauer (extended sexual orgasm – an extension of the principle that it is possible to get to know someone, starting with oneself), Byron Katie (the work), Charlotte Kasl (love on a spiritual path), and Martin Buber (I-Thou).